Makeshift Life Syndrome: Living, only half-satisfied by the so called current and temporary compromises and measures, while seeking, dreaming and hungering of a more permanent one.
Closely related to the ‘Life is elsewhere’ syndrome, which occurs due to either lack of maturity or lack of life experience, or even inherent laziness, as opposed to ‘Makeshift Living’ syndrome which comes later in life, and causes more of frustration, discontentment and a constant fog of melancholy.
There might come a time people might freeze when their search results don’t give concrete results.
Google might be sued someday for “Google induced inaction”
Google will have to have a disclaimer that their search results are not absolute until they reach godhood, which is any day now, they might add, as per their calculations.
Many years after our marriage, both my father and my father in law realized that they had spent many years of their childhood living a only few houses away from each others families, and that there is a great possibility that our grandparents knew each other very well.
My father in law’s family subsequently moved away and lost all contact with my father’s, and eventually forgotten about them.
With the deaths of both our(wife and mine) grandparents, there was no one left to re-remember the old ties and friendships that bound the two families, only to be rekindled with a chance memory six years after our marriage.
Its funny because one of the reasons I married my wife was she was a completely new person in my life, and that I had to be the one to find her myself.
I had wanted to marry as far as possible from all the people I knew-and my wife’s only connection to me was that her cousin and I went to school until 4th grade.
Six years is a wonderfully long time-long enough for me to disregard the fact that was not successful in finding the wife I thought I wanted, a wife from a place far away, where I had no ties before, and everything was new.
I gladly welcome these happy coincidences because instead of getting the wife I wanted I got the wife I needed.
P.s.Happy Coincidences sometimes make me almost believe in destiny.
You get what you deserve.
Optimists view this statement as a Carte Blanche promise of a better tomorrow.
Pessimists view this statement in terms of the past, with sadness and unjust indignation.
The depressed think the statement has a hidden but diametrically opposite meaning , which goes: “You deserve what you got ”
The realists think about the statement, and come to the conclusion that the evidence (or anecdata) does not support the hypothesis.
Reality happens too slow or too fast. Fiction on the other hand happens at just the right pace.
‘Life is elsewhere’ syndrome
The feeling that, the life you’re living right now doesn’t really matter because ‘real life’ as you vaguely picture it in your mind hasn’t begun yet, and so everything you do right now is of no consequence.
Give some compliments to get some back, even if insincere, because it has some value.
Long ago, I had written this.
Not good writing obviously, but in my defense youth and folly go together.
But I still stand by it. Well… Must of it.
Making friends, as adults, is really difficult.
It’s really easy as a kid (human or goat)
Well… Maybe not that easy…
Instead find collaborators for activities that you really like.
It’s a close second to friendship.
Just try it.
I want you to think for a moment who it is I’m referring to as frustrating.
Is it the person who is mad (angry in this context), or is it the person providing the solution , hoping to end the anger, thereby depriving the angry person of his feeling of the emotion if anger?
Dave Chappelle seems to have this view.
His analogy when he quit showbusiness.
But now he’s back.
You constantly cry for attention.It only highlights what you and everyone else already suspect… you are insecure.
Likely your insecurity stems from always questioning if you really ever earned anything by merit. Most people probably hand you things because they like looking at you. But that’s made you vapid, shallow, and unable to perform in any way that adds true value in the world.
Your relationships are superficial. Your romance life always has the shadow of doubt. Does he love you… or how you look? If you were disfigured, would anyone give you a second glance based on personality?
That nagging feeling will keep you looking for validation. It keeps you in the gym. It makes you post photos online looking for praise or positive attention. It keeps you going back for a nip here and tuck there. Before long you’ll look like Donatella Versace with the personality of one of her handbags.
You’ll shift from being the center of attention to being part of a gaggle of women who make rude comments about younger girls because you feel jealous and rude comments about men who no longer pay attention to you.
You’d be better served working on being a better person than hunting for attention constantly, but you’ll likely die young and your grave will be about as shallow as your personality.
”You can’t protect people. You can only make them stronger.”
“If you protect people, they get worse, not better.”
Anais Nin: “You can’t save people; you can just love them.”