Do you mean what you say,
And say what you mean,
Even in anger?
Or are you mean when you’re angry and words become pointed weapons?
To the people I love, I mean what I say, and bite my tongue when in anger. The truth that comes out, subjective as it is, is meant to communicate, but not hurt.
But my truth causes blunt force trauma.
To the people I love.
A white lie seems like a disservice, to the people I love.
But it is a disservice they demand and deserve.
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life”
I have mine and you have yours.
Let’s not marry them,
because more is not merrier.
“When you drift too far into the nihilistic substructure, there’s a huge call for tyrannical order that manifests itself subconsciously.”
We are bad at dealing with bad outcomes.
You watch any movie, listen to any story, and they basically all have the same moral that we are basically in charge of our destinies and by right or wrong choices control how events turn out.
Real life doesn’t work that way though, and so we are often obsessed about “what we could have done differently”. We see a bad outcome that we were involved with and we think that we had some kind of control over it. We can intellectually recognize that within our realm of possible actions none would have resulted in a better outcome, but there it is.
Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.” – Louise Erdrich