Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.” – Louise Erdrich
To find happiness, you need to align your compromises with ‘your‘ choices in your life, and as far as possible, avoid getting shackled to compromises resulting from actions, decisions and promises to and of ‘non-significant’ others.
And to multiply your happiness with righteous justification, rename your compromises to something more heroic… perhaps call them sacrifices!
“Don’t forget, it’s wrong to eat your children.”
What does he mean by this?
It means that parents can metaphorically devour their children by over-protecting them (usually mothers) or forcing them into an overly orderly existence (usually fathers). Either of those strategies cuts the child off from contact with the positive aspect of the unknown that allows creativity, growth, and individuality.