TL;DR:Don’t put your life on hold waiting for closure on something you’re struggling with. Many of life’s most difficult situations don’t have reasonable explanations.
When you grow up, once you are an adult, you realize that ‘closure’ is a myth, fed by the inherent narrative fallacy of the brain.
Closure, especially from another person is even more useless because of all the other biases of the human brain.You are never likely to get the real truth.
Instead you will be fed with the socially acceptable truths and tropes that have been floating around and have been accepted as ‘good enough’ substitutes .
Worse yet, you will be fed an outright lie which was justified because the other person themselves did not know the reason for their own actions.
Yes, the shocking observation is that humans are barely aware of their own actions and reactions, much less about the underlying reasons and biases.
I googled what I was about to write, and I found that many others had come to the same conclusion independently.
I did not read any of their articles, because then it would influence my ideas(sorry, I cannot stop cryptoamnesia)
Its funny how we are all slowly waking up, and in the end we die.