In order to keep a relationship smooth, you have to let the other person maintain an apparent superiority over you in at least one aspect of your shared life.
Don’t look for things you don’t want to be found.
A simple lie always trumps a complex truth.
The simple truth is that every truth is a complex truth.
Hence the simple truth is usually a lie.
A fire fighter trying to smother a raging oil well burninh up in kuwait repeatedly wakes up at 4 in the morninh because of flaming terror dreams.
A mother of three smells perfume on her husband’s shirts and, consumed by jealousy, broods about his infidelity, reviewing the list of possible women over and over.
A woman is the sole source of support for her children.He co-workers start geting pink slips,She has a panic attack.
The only good thing that can be said about your fears is that are well-founded.
Happy Valentine’s my love,
You know what…I like being with you.
Sure, you drive me crazy sometimes,
or bore me to death,sometimes
but there’s no one else in the world I’d rather be with.
I like the way you act silly, and how you’ve accepted all my silliness. I like the way you hold me,and look at me,
like there’s no one else in the world you’d rather be with.
I like that you miss me for real, and that makes me miss you more.
I fantasize that someday I would be able to do everything for you that you wanted. On that day, I will ask you “Are you happy now?”
And you’d say “No, I was happy all along”
I would ask, “Then why did you let me do all these things, if you were already happy?” You’d say “Because it made YOU happy”
And then we would hug…Hard…Smiling-just like you are, as you read these sentences.
If this was a movie, we would kiss while the screen went dark, and the credits would roll. I wonder who would play our roles of our movie was made.
No matter who played our roles,
I’m sure our movie would have a happy ending-one with infinte possibilities and endless unanswered questions-and a kick ass music track.
You should know this about me.
I’m afraid of starting conversations, especially new ones.
Having said that, I prefer a face to face over telephone, or email, when it comes to resolve things.
I have a few friends that I’ve never spoken to in real life, and yet they know more about me than anyone else in this world.
It is the fear of broken expectaions I guess…
I have a mental picture of people in my head, and I somehow don’t want it to be proven wrong- I don’t want them to be any less than what I imagined them to be.
It was so bad that I wouldn’t ask for my wife’s telephone number while I was courting her.After a few days, she grew exasperated enough to ask me whether I was going to ask her number, or should she give it to me herself!
I said to her”I don’t ask for numbers, coz I get too many even without asking!” I thought I was playing it cool.In retrospect, I was being an ass.
And a lucky one too…she did give me her number, and I said”Don’t expect me to call you everyday” In retrospect, I was pushing my luck.
Maybe I was afraid of the uncertainty more than I was of broken expectations.There is so little control over a two way conversation.
I’m a master at written conversation-I will steer the convo exactly where I want it, but a face to face is fraught with uncertainty and you never know where it will lead. I realise this is a control issue.
I must now realise that being totally in control is an iluusion. I must realise that there is a difference between Knowing and realising. Whoa Dude! I can be soo meta!
You were never wrong all your life.
You have always taken the best decisions and courses of action that were allowed by the given circumstances, knowledge and resources at your disposal at that time.
Mistakes happned only in hindsight.
You would not have done the things that you did if you knew they would go wrong.
You believe that you are fundamentally a good person, and let me reassure you-You as a person have not changed. You remain,to yourself, who you think you are.
And whether that is a good thing, or bad, if for you to decide.
One of my fantasies is someone out there singing Adele’s “Someone Like You” for me, and meaning it.