I’ve never believed that life can be run purely on the principle of
quid pro quo.
We are never the givers and the takers in equal proportions.
The ratio is usually skewed in either direction…some people take
more than they give, and vice versa.
I’m a giver…something I’ve inherited from dad.He’s the most generous
giver I’ve ever seen.
That’s when I realised that we all have our counterparts.
That was what she was.
The Smith Virus to Neo.(Matrix fans might get this analogy)
She took, took and took.
I realised that she wasn’t selfish…but for every morsel that she
gave, she bit huge chunks out.
When I stopped giving (because I was tired and depleted), she demanded more.
Turns out she’s been losing other friends as well…she’s becoming
lonely.She whines that they have now shown their true colours…
Actually they were hoping you’d stop being a human-leech someday when
you grew up.
It didn’t happen.
They too got tired.
No…they weren’t showing their true colours…
They had brought out the worst in them , hoping that you’d be
repulsed, and hopefully they’d never have to give in to you.
Quid Pro Quo is an ideal situation, best suited for an ideal world.
But the world we live is this one…far from ideal…filled with
lopsided givers and takers.
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- Making a Networking “Gift” to Someone (catherinekaputa.typepad.com)